Reasons why you should masturbate

Given our busy schedules, perhaps the time has come to enjoy solo sex. Remember, 94% men and 89% women still masturbate on a regular basis. Masturbation doesn't cause any harm to your body until and unless you over do it.

Here, we give you why you should masturbate.

Masturbation is healthy: Masturbation is one of the best ways to stay healthy and has many health benefits. It can cure diseases like insomnia, stress, anxiety, menstrual cramp, depression, and it can even stimulate your immune system. Some researches say it's also a form of exercise; it can burn a few calories even though it can't match up to gym workout.

It feels really good: Fantasies make masturbating so much fun. So, fantasize about having sex with celebrities, porn stars, strangers and what have you. By masturbating, you can have one of the greatest orgasms of your life.

Masturbation is safe: What's the only 100% safe form of sex? It's masturbation. You don't need to worry about getting pregnant or getting an STD. Unlike sex, masturbation is free of cost. It's your own body, do whatever you want.

Masturbation is natural: Masturbation is normal, and it's a natural act. It is a common form of autoeroticism. Forget the myths and misconceptions regarding masturbation. It will never lead to infertility, sexual weakness or loss of libido. Even animals like monkeys, dogs, and cats masturbate.

Masturbation improves sexual relationship: You can learn many things from masturbation. It can improve your sexual relationships with your partner. Women can explore their own body through masturbation; they can determine what is erotically pleasing to them and can share this with their partners.

It's a fun experience.

Masturbation Q&A

Masturbation is one of those activities everyone enjoys, but few are comfortable discussing openly with a friend, or even a family doctor. This is largely due to societal taboos perpetuated by frowning parents and sex education teachers. Most of us are able to ignore the discouragement, however, and continue masturbating into adulthood. Unfortunately, some of the myths we’re taught as children are less easily ignored, and many men worry that the act must be unhealthy on some level. After all, how can something so pleasurable not be bad for you? Read on as we put to rest some of the more common fears men have regarding masturbation.

Is frequent masturbation bad for you?

No, frequent masturbation is not bad for you. As long as it isn’t interfering with your work performance or taking precedence over the routine activities in your life, there’s no reason to be concerned about this. It will not decrease your sex drive, and it will not cause health problems. Enthusiastic masturbation can be tiring, though, and overly frequent activity of this nature can lead to physical exhaustion. Therefore, you may want to keep this in mind and schedule your solo sessions around your job or social obligations, lest you be fatigued throughout them.

If, however, you find yourself growing obsessed with masturbation to a point where it’s interfering with work or personal relationships, it’s probably time to cut back a bit and perhaps speak to a professional about underlying issues that may be the cause.

Does masturbation affect sperm count?

Ejaculation as a result of masturbation is no different than ejaculation as a result of sexual intercourse; sperm count is the same in either case. Frequent sexual encounters do not cause a decline in male fertility, ergo, nor does frequent masturbation. That said, if a man has a low sperm count to begin with, masturbation could conceivably affect the quality of his sperm. Therefore, if actively trying to father children, these men should refrain from masturbation when their partners are ovulating to ensure the highest quantity and quality of sperm possible.

Can masturbation cause health problems?

Contrary to ridiculous claims in the not-so-distant past, masturbation does not cause blindness, insanity, hairy palms, hair loss, acne, or cancer of any kind. In fact, masturbation is actually quite beneficial for a man’s health. It’s a natural stress reliever and is used as a sleep aid by many men.

Masturbation has even been clinically proven to reduce migraines and other types of pain. And, if that’s not health positive enough for you, recent studies suggest frequent masturbation -- seven times a week or more -- greatly reduces a man’s chances of developing prostate cancer. If that’s not a good excuse to masturbate, nothing is!

How can I make myself ejaculate more forcefully?

Porn stars always seem to ejaculate impressive amounts of semen, and manage to do so at equally impressive distances. If you’re one of the many men dissatisfied with their performance in this area, there’s an easy solution. Spend some quality time strengthening your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle, and you’ll be amazed at the difference the exercises can make. It won’t happen overnight, but it will happen eventually. If your primary concern is volume, you could also try reducing the frequency with which you masturbate; refrain from ejaculating for a couple of days, and you’ll see definite results the next time you do. Water consumption will also help a great deal, so make sure you stay hydrated in the hours leading up to big finale.

Is it normal for my ejaculate to contain small traces of blood?

Hematospermia -- which is just a fancy Latin word meaning blood in the sperm -- is a common occurrence in men of all ages. Generally speaking, this condition is usually reflective of a relatively harmless inflammation of the seminal vesicles. Men younger than 40 years of age usually have little or nothing to worry about, provided the amount of blood is small and isn’t accompanied by other symptoms such as pain, fever or swelling. The condition should resolve itself if there isn’t an underlying problem, but if it persists for more than a few weeks, a doctor’s opinion should be sought. If you’re older than 40 and experiencing hematospermia, you should keep a closer eye on things. If the symptoms last for more than a month or if you have additional symptoms of unknown origin, you should definitely consult a physician to rule out cancer and other infections.

Walk the dog often, it's good for you

Masturbation is a perfectly acceptable activity, and one of the few pleasures in life that is actually good for you. Forget all the negative connotations you were exposed to as a kid and take your doctor’s word for it: Masturbation is healthy. Whether you’re relieving sexual tension, migraines or just trying to maintain good prostate health, this is one activity you can -- and should -- enjoy without worrying about risks. 

Masturbation Techniques

Men have been taking care of "business" since the dawn of time, and many have devised strategies to enhance the experience -- somewhat. Without discussing the basics -- the Basic Fist and Basic Thumb and Forefinger, which no doubt you are all well aware of -- let’s delve into some more "advanced" masturbation techniques.  

It has to be noted that many men may find it easier, faster and more effective to masturbate instead of putting in the time and effort to enhance their sexual relationship with their lover. Masturbation, however, should not replace a healthy sex life with a partner -- to do so is to lose out on the intimacy of closeness, and the effort and reward of a mutually beneficial relationship.

Studies show that, chemically, masturbating is 400 times less effective at satisfying ones sexual appetite than sex with a partner. Nonetheless, masturbating is certainly a favorite and pleasant pastime of men and women alike, and is a great way to enjoy and learn about yourself.

There are many ways to get yourself off, and with Male Appreciation Day in mind, here are some masturbation techniques you may not have played around with just yet.

Pelvic thrust with wrist

This masturbation technique utilizes the wrist and hand simultaneously.

Self-love guide: Lubricate your hand and your wrist. With your fingers facing your perineum, grip your penis from the front (with your thumb in your pubic hair. Kneel on a bed or the floor and thrust into your hand and along the wrist so your wrist rubs against the underside head of your penis.

Deep scrotum massage

The testicles are often left out while masturbating, but this masturbation technique gives you the tools to maximize this sensitive and sensual zone.

Self-love guide: Lubricate your penis and scrotum. With your hand grasping your penis, point your index finger toward your scrotum. Your thumb and forefinger should be closest to your body. Allow your thumb and forefinger to slide down as far as they can go in a stroke toward the scrotum. Your other hand is now free to do what you will with your testicles -- be it a deep massage, tickle, etc.


Don’t let the old washerwoman into your head. Squeeze a bit more fun out of your manhood with this stellar masturbation technique.

Self-love guide: Lubricate your penis. Using both hands, one at the bottom and one at the top of the penis, gently wring in opposite directions. Use the motion from bottom to top as if you were wringing out a cloth -- squeeze the semen out, not in.

Butt spread

This one sounds a bit weirder than it really is, so give us a chance here. This masturbation technique may not be for everyone, but it's worth giving it a shot just to find out if it does the trick for you.

Self-love guide: Lubrication is optional -- as you like. On a comfortable surface (bed), sit on your heels with each heel gently spreading your butt cheeks (comfortably, don't overstretch as you may cause yourself pain instead of pleasure). Masturbate as you wish, using any of the above techniques or with your usual method. When you are about to ejaculate, spread your cheeks and feel the deep orgasm stem from your perineum. (There is a pressure point in the center of your perineum that creates more intense orgasms). This masturbation technique can be quite intense.  


Why did the cow wear a bell around her neck? Because her horn didn't work. Fortunately, yours does!

Self-love guide: Lubricate your penis. Sitting in a relaxed position, using both hands one at a time, squeeze and pull up the length of your penis and over the top. If you've got extra skin (read: uncircumcised) you can also pull the extra skin up and over the head of the penis when you pull up. Repeat as necessary, and as slowly or quickly as you like.

Get the "hand" job done right

Making hot love to yourself is a wonderful experience, and new masturbation techniques should always be experimented with -- who knows, you may be missing out on some serious pleasure. Practice new techniques with care, and don’t forget that practice makes perfect -- not all of these will end brilliantly straight away.

Male Appreciation Day is a wonderful opportunity to love yourself and your inherent manliness by showing yourself all due respect, and trying out something new.   

Big Penises

When it comes to the world of penises, it’s a commonly held belief that bigger is better. Most of the time it is. What woman doesn’t love the added friction of a big penis? But even the most dedicated of size queens may find that sometimes a too-large penis can be more than a mouthful -- literally.

I once met a man who was so well endowed that the first time we had sex he punctured me. We awoke to find blood stains all over the bed the next morning, and, for once, it wasn’t because I was riding the crimson wave. Nope, it was just because his dick was abnormally big. As the day went on, I continued to bleed causing me to worry if this was normal. The last thing I needed was an infection below the belt. So I called up a doctor friend to ask for advice. His counsel? Lay off having sex for a few days. You would think he’d know me better than that. Clearly that wasn’t an option.

Big Penises And Anal Sex: A Deadly Combination 

Undeterred, I continued to have sex with the Anaconda, as I call him, and as a result continued to bleed here and there. It was all fine and dandy until one day he thought it would be a great idea to spring anal sex on me. In most circumstances, I’m a big fan of surprises. But “Surprise! My dick is in your ass!” is not one of them. I screamed in pain and told him in no uncertain terms to get the hell off of me.

It didn’t get any better when it came to oral sex. The first time I went downtown, I could barely fit it in my mouth, causing me to accidentally graze his member with my teeth. After a little practice, I finally got it under control, but easy it was not. Still, his larger-than-life penis was not as bad as some of the others my friends have encountered. Some of my girlfriends have experienced penises so enormous they could only allow half of it inside before yelping in pain. It’s like going to a buffet and being unable to eat.

So what’s a guy to do when he has a big penis? Alas, unlike boobs, there is no way to make it smaller or larger (although I sure wish there was).

How To Have Sex With A Big Penis

1. Use lots of lube: Even if the woman in question is normally pretty moist, lubricants will be her best friend in this situation, since lube will lessen the friction. You can use lube in foreplay, having her rub your member with the slippery stuff. Avoid oil-based lubricants because they cause yeast infections. Instead, stick to water- or silicone-based lubes, which can also be used with condoms.

2. Avoid anal and doggy style: The anal canal is not as elastic as the vagina. A vagina is meant to have objects go in (penises) and out (babies), so it’s more prepared to expand. The anal canal, however, is designed for no such activity. It’s not impossible, but anal sex with a larger-than-average penis is going to cause most women outright pain if not extreme discomfort. The doggy-style position allows for extra-deep penetration, so it's a better bet for men on the smaller side. A guy with a big penis may very well injure a woman in this position.

3. Stick to missionary, woman on top or sideways: The classic missionary keeps you from thrusting too deep into your lady. Even though it’s knocked for being boring, it’s a win-win proposition for both parties in this circumstance. With the woman on top position, she can control how far she allows you inside her and you’ll get a full view of her hot bod. Having sex sideways is perfect for bigger penises since neither one of you will be able to fully thrust. The limited range of motion is still pretty sexy, as you’ll be able to make out at the same time.

4. Take it slow: It goes without saying that when you have a big penis, you shouldn’t throw it around like a bull in a china shop. Slow and steady wins the race. Enter her carefully and slowly and build up to a more intense thrusting so she’s not caught off guard by your gigantic member.

Average Penis Size

Get your measuring tape out. The definitive study on average penis size is in.

Research by the French medical organization the National Academy of Surgery was conducted to ease men’s feelings of inadequacy and dissuade them from this crazy fad of penis-enlargement surgery.

On to the facts: The average penis size is 3.5 to 3.7 inches when soft and between 5.0-5.7 inches when hard. For those still paranoid, that’s 9 to 9.5 centimeters at ease and 12.8 to 14 centimeters at attention.

Anything bigger, and you can apply to be Ron Jeremy’s stunt double.

As far as circumference goes, 3.3 to 3.5 inches (8.5 to 9 centimeters) is normal when flaccid and 3.9 to 4.1 (10 to 10.5 centimeters) when erect.

Penis Girth Matters

How many times have you heard women say that penis size doesn’t matter? Or that when it comes to a guy’s penis, it’s not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean? Well, I have good news, bad news and more good news. It’s true that the length of a man’s penis isn’t a big deal to most women; in fact, the typical vagina is only about four inches long when aroused, while the average penis is about five to six inches long when erect -- so you do the math. Alternatively, penis girth (or width) can make a difference. Worried that you don’t measure up? I have tips and tricks to help you take your sex life from “meh” to “wow”!

The pink pearl

First, let's talk about the clitoris. Most people are familiar with the little pink pearl that sits at the top of the labia. It is extremely sensitive and is covered by a little hood of skin that is actually where the tops of the labia come together. But there is much more to the clitoris than just what you can see and feel. The entire clitoris is shaped like an upside down “V.” Its legs (crura) extend down and under the pubic bone, and it also has extensions that follow along each side of the vaginal opening, called the vestibular bulbs. The entire clitoris is made up of spongy tissue that fills with blood when a woman gets aroused. As Dr. Emily Nagoski discusses in the Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, “Averaging just one-eighth the size of a penis yet loaded with nearly double the nerve endings, it is the only human organ with no function other than pleasure.”

The power of penis girth

A wide penis puts more pressure on the vestibular bulbs, which gives a pleasurable feeling of fullness at the vaginal opening. Some researchers have commented that this feeling of fullness is psychologically pleasing as well. A wide penis also creates more tension on the labia, which, in turn, causes more tugging and movement at the hood covering the clitoris. This adds stimulation to the clitoris in addition to the surrounding tissues. The pudendal nerve supplies the entire vulva, including the labia, clitoris and the lower third of the vagina. So, the more surface area you have contact with at any one time, the more exciting signals you’ll have traveling through that nerve. A wide penis can do just that.

Now, the average erect penis is about four inches in circumference (I’ll pause here to let you get that tape measure). But all men can use certain techniques to give a woman the feeling of a wider penis. First, use a slight circular motion as you thrust. This way, the shaft of the penis pushes more against the sides of the vaginal opening, giving the woman that extra pressure and tension. You can also choose an angle of entry that allows you to put more pressure on the fourchette, the area below the vaginal opening where the labia end in a little "V." This will also tug the labia a little more and stretch her pelvic muscles. Feeling creative? Try working in extra fingers or using a penile sleeve.

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